My Own Self Concept..

What to known to others and myself.. ( OPEN PANE)
1)I am super loud!!!
2) I might talk alot xD
3) Someone that loves to shop a lot.. literally A LOT!!
4) Big money SPENDER!!
5) I am fat =)
6) I am bad tempered
7) I get frustrated very easily..

What known to others only. (BLIND PANE)
1) cheerfull * i am??? *
2) very spontaneous *WOW*
3) respond fast
4) i make things complicated
5) I am tall
6) Straight forward... because i am the person that actually really very straight forward.. and i will just say it out without thinking because i don't keep my frustration inside me and therefore i might hurt people sometimes but i don't mean it because i just wan to throw my frustration away. I just talk bout it but i don't realise that i hurt people until people feel i am bad and feel uneasy about it.

What know to myself only (HIDDEN PANE)
1) I feel people don't understand what i am talking about
2) I am very emotional..
3) I thinks i am annoy everyone
4) I don't give ignorance to the world.
5) I don't mean the bad things that i have said
6) I thinks I am actually a very bad person and I think I hurt a lot of people before

What not known to me, and others.(UNKNOWN PANE)
Something that i wont know but in the future I will. I might own a big house or a big car.
I might get a rich boyfriend? I might be a psychologist or work as a admin or other jobs. This is the things that I want to own but I won't know after I actually success in doing it.

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

An interpersonal relationship is a relatively long-term association between two or more people. This association may be based on emotions like love and liking, regular business interactions, or some other type of social commitment. Interpersonal relationships take place in a great variety of contexts, such as family, friends, marriage, acquaintances, work, clubs, neighborhoods, and churches. They may be regulated by law, custom, or mutual agreement, and are the basis of social groups and society as a whole. Although humans are fundamentally social creatures, interpersonal relationships are not always healthy. Examples of unhealthy relationships include abusive relationships and codependence.
A relationship is normally viewed as a connection between two individuals, such as a romantic or intimate relationship, or a parent-child relationship. Individuals can also have relationships with groups of people, such as the relation between a pastor and his congregation, an uncle and a family, or a mayor and a town. Finally, groups or even nations may have relations with each other, though this is a much broader domain than that covered under the topic of interpersonal relationships.
A relationship is normally viewed as a connection between two individuals, such as a romantic or intimate relationship, or a parent-child relationship. Individuals can also have relationships with groups of people, such as the relation between a pastor and his congregation, an uncle and a family.
All relationships involve some level of interdependence. People in a relationship tend to influence each other, share their thoughts and feelings, and engage in activities together. Because of this interdependence, anything that changes or impacts one member of the relationship will have some level of impact on the other member.

How to maintain a relationship?
There is so much more involved in keeping romance alive than just candles, bubble baths, and foot massages. You each have to work at it in order to maintain and enjoy romance in your life. Here is how to feed the romantic fires in your relationship in a deep and meaningful way.

1. Tell the truth. Truth is the ultimate aphrodisiac and a great way to create connection with your partner. For example, you might say "I feel safe when I am with you" or "Sometimes I feel scared that we get so busy with other things that we forget about creating close moments together, but I really want to be close with you." Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life.

2. Appreciate yourself and your partner. Appreciation means "to grow in value, or to be sensitively aware of." Take time to understand just what it is that you like about yourself, and your partner. Saying for example, "I am doing a good job as a parent by taking time to hug the kids in the morning before they go off to school." or "I really appreciate how dedicated you are to your job." Successful relationships have a 5 to 1 ratio of appreciations to criticisms, so if you really want to heat up your relationship, start appreciating!

3. Listen. All humans crave being seen and heard. Being with your partner, and really listening to them can be magical for you both. Often, we want to fix their problems, but it is much more powerful to listen. Saying, "Wow, I can understand you are frustrated." or "That must have been hard on you." Let your partner know you're hearing them.

4. Create romance within yourself first. We often try to "get" our partners to be more romantic by believing we need to change them in order to have what we want. The truth is that you are much more likely to have what you want when 'you' show up in that way. For example, create your own romantic mood--dress, put on music, prepare sensuous foods, take some time to love and appreciate yourself. It will not take long for your partner to join in the fun!

5. Ask for what you want. Let your partner know that you are deeply interested in spending some romantic time with them (You would be surprised at how often they are unaware of this.) Whining, demanding, and manipulating are contrary to creating romance, so do your best to ask using kind and loving words.

6. Bring play back into your relationship. Levity is a sexy thing. If you are stuck in thoughts of how much housework you have to do, or that you might wake the kids, more than likely you will not feel romantic. Laugh about the ways that you take your self out of a romantic mood, and soon, you will be back in it.

7. Speak your partner's love language. We often become confused and disappointed by expecting the other person to do such and such romantic things. Do to your partner the things they like as well as you telling them what 'you' like, want, and expect. When you fulfill their needs and desires, you will end up receiving the same in return!

8. Accept each other unconditionally, respect each others wishes and dislikes. Keep the mystery and fascination to each other. Love each moment as if it is the last.

Significance

Significance of Colour in Culture

Below is a link to what colours mean and signify in different culture:http://http://webdesign.about.com/od/colorcharts/l/bl_colorculture.htm

Imagine a world without colours....(and I do not mean black and white-They are colours to you know?)

Culture in itself makes our world colourful.It brings about a certain vibrancy and variety to life.As the saying goes variety is the spice of life.

Undeniably, Malaysia is definitely blessed with such vastness in cultures.Besides,Indian,Chinese and Malay cultures,we also have the Aborigines,

Portugese,Baba & Nyonya and other etnic cultures.

Personally,I love the colour of sarees,cudithar,salwar,jeepa and dhoti.The sight of little India is a sight to behold!

Just the other day,in ananda Bahwan,near the cashier,there were bindi colours situated on the table. Tina explain that the different colours signified different status in a person's life.For example,a married woman would wear a red pottu and the young girls and widows also will wear black pottu.

(Assistance on pottus were given by Geetha & Tina)

Blistered in Little India

No excuses. Yes, I know.

Personally, I'd say that going to Thaipusam or Cap Goh Meh is one hellavu interesting thing but the only problem is how to get there without overheating and dying in your car for being stuck in the traffic jam for four hours. So, I'd be honest and say that I went all the way there but didn't make it to the parade. I overheated. I had a migraine.

(What can I say? I can't crawl on my lips to the coconuts, no? I was just being realistic.)

Nay, I went to Thaipusam in spirit.

I think I'll just discern what Thaipusam means in my own words and what I think it actually symbolizes. Here's the story:

Once upon a time, in a faraway land there lived the Devas (good people) and the Asuras (bad people) and they are waging an infernal war between themselves. Because the Devas were so tired of the Asuras attacking them without mercy, they begged for Lord Shiva to help them and as what Gods would do to hapless folks, he agreed to help them. Lord Shiva opened up his forehead and out came Lord Murugan who wields the Nyanya Vel (golden spear). Lord M fought the meanest and cruelest Asuras, Soorapadme and a fierce battle ensued. He won, as expected or we will not be celebrating Thaipusam.

An Indian culture. Very like my own yet so foreign.

Concept of the Self

Time would tell if I manage to keep up this pace. Never did I thought I'd change so drastically until I couldn't recognise myself anymore. Perhaps, the empirists philosophers were right; experience adds to knowledge and my experiences are far more than a normal person would've have acheived at his/her age. Not bragging, no, I'm just telling the truth.

I always wonder what would people think when they see me, what their first impression is? I'd get a variety of answers: "You look aloof" or "You keep a certain distance around others (a hand span away) or "You're approachable and funny" or "Damn, you're cold!". So many different ones and I feel as though I've replicated myself and distributed it all around for people to share.

What I think I know about myself (on the surface, however) is that I am approachable, a good listener, too serious at times, a hardcore reader, extremely open minded and liberal. But that is just the surface. Well, I think it's not even on the surface; it's hovering above the surface. When people finally get to know me, they are suprised to know how passionate I am when it comes to things that I feel is important to fight about. Oh, and yes, I am kind of aggressive. When talking nicely to someone who annoys me doesn't work, I automatically turn physical. That's a flaw I'm trying to absolve.

Playing games (PC, PS2 and such), war games (Black, Medal of Honor), first person (Splinter Cell, Hitman, Halo, CS...), strategic games (Red Alert, War of the Ring, Tiberian Sun ...etc) would put me in the category of the 'manly girl'. NOT a label I like. I am who I am. Experince made me so and I hope people wouldn't judge me for who they expect me to be. But they do and it's just part of life.

More to tell but my brain juices aren't working all that well. Perhaps when it's not sizzling, I'll come back and edit it. Better use of words and sentences. Oh, by the way, I've just been made Fayatte President. Heh.

Perception

What is Perception???

Perception is what we think or others think about others behavior, feeling, sense, thoughts and etc.
We are aware of anything around us.
We can perceive smell, thoughts, or basically anything. The senses that we can use is like smell, thoughts, sense, feel and the other senses as well.

Eg. What we can percieve??
The way we behave??
The way we act??
The way we talk??
Perceptions vary from person to person. Different people perceive different things about the same situation. But more than that, we assign different meanings to what we perceive. And the meanings might change for a certain person. One might change one's perspective or simply make things mean something else.
This is a famous picture. What does it look like to you?
Some people see a young lady looking away. Others see an old lady looking down. Depending on how you look at it, part of the picture might be the young woman's nose and eyelash, or it might be a wart on the old woman's nose. What is the young woman's ear might be the old woman's eye. What is the young woman's necklace might be the old woman's mouth. The picture hasn't really changed. You just emphasize different parts of it and assign them different meaning
The meaning of something will change when you look at it differently. You can look at anything differently and it will have a different meaning.
There is no fixed meaning to anything. You can always change perspectives and change meanings. Sometimes a certain thing might bring an entire different meaning to another.I personally think it depends alot on how we relate to our surroundings,how we respond to our environment etc.
Perception is the process of gathering information through our senses, organizing and making sense of it.
Previous experience and learning, attitudes and interests, needs and feelings, and the current situation all affect perception. All people do not "see" the same thing when looking at a visual image. Perception differs from individual to individual due to a variety of personal, socio-economical, and cultural differences.
Age, gender, race, and past experiences are examples of personal perception filters. Young children, teenagers, and adults "see" things differently.As they grow and develop, children learn to see and comprehend relationships and themes from visuals instead of simply seeing individual objects and shapes.

There are 4 types of perception which is :-
1) Sensation
2) Selection
3) Organiztion
4) Translation

1) Sensation - It is more to limitations of our organ sense. For example, hearing, talking, looking and the rest. The organizational factors are rules, policies, procedures, social factors and also social factors ( avoidance behavior)

2) Selection - Physical attributes which is the contrast, change, intensity or frequency. and for the Psychological Attribues is personality, interpersonal needs, emotions, expectation, beliefs.

3) Organization - The perception of organization is for those who have the similarity for example : color, size, personal characteristic and many more. It is also for those that have proximity liek time and spaces.

4)Translation - Perception of stereotyping, projectim, attribution, Halo J Herns effects.

What is self fullfiling prophecy??
It is about people's expectation given from another comment.
Eg : ( similar to the Law of Attraction) If i am told about how stupid i am, eventhough i am clever but in future i will slowly become stupid because i start to believe how stupid i am.
A person comment, or perception will change people into believing the person who actually they are not and slowly become the person.

What is implicit personality theory?
The general expectations that we build about a person after we know something of their central traits. For example when we believe that a happy person is also friendly.
Eg : I may assume intelligent people are arrogant, quiet people are timid and aggressive people are stupid.

NON VERBAL COMMUNICATION (SOCIAL CLOCK)

What is social clock?

1. Stage models posited a linear set of stages that people progressed through over the course of alifetime.


2. Atimes culture will organised our social clock at specific of our life time- example, are people who have always been single viewed more negatively when they are middle-aged adults than when they are young adults
3. Have you ever heard someone say (or said yourself) "my clock is ticking." This is an example of a social clock which is a cultural specific timetable for events to occur. Events include marriage, having children, example, in some cultures it is expected that people be married in their teens.
4. This is an example of a social clock - in that cutlture they have an accepted timetable for when events are to occur.
5. Sometime our feelings will influence our behaviour.
6. Feel out of step